--Laura Tringali Holmes, 1/22/2017
Here's what I wrote when I first introduced the Project in August of 2013:
While other kids were out doing social pre-teen things, I was being dragged around an archery trail or instructed how to man a fishing rod stuffed into a sand spike. Such is the life of a daughter of a sportsman. Of course there were other things I would much rather have been doing, but those things didn't matter and certainly nobody ever asked me about them. And I had learned at a much younger age not even to bring them up. This is because a parent afflicted with narcissism doesn't mirror back the child to the child as is desirable and normal, so what the child wants or needs simply doesn't matter. No, to a narcissistic parent, the child IS the mirror, reflecting back the parent's own issues and interests, in this case, bows and arrows, guns, fishing and camping gear, and boats.
|Me in impossible shoes at the archery range at Ferry Point Park, Bronx, New York|
|Archery targets, vintage 1960s, from Sears, Roebuck & Co.|
|Targets going out the door|
Immediately, work began to roll back in.
The response was unanticipated, and stunning, a testament to the power of community and hope.
Laura Tringali Holmes
New York, USA